Not a "Good Mommy"

So I've known for some time that I'm not exactly what you would call a "Good Mommy" - but soes that mean I'm a "Bad Mommy"? I sure hope not, but that's the way it feels sometimes.

So I was really glad to see this wonderful post (read it! It's worth it!) discussing the virtues of maybe not being a "Good Mommy" but instead striving to be a "Strong Mommy." Mary makes a great case for forsaking "Good" Mommyhood, which is nice to read.

When I commented on this post, thanking her for pointing out that not being "Good" doesn't necessarily make you "Bad," she also sent me a nice email, saying:

Several commenters said much the same thing. When I wrote the post, I was writing with "Good Mommies" in mind. It hadn't occurred to me that there would be a bunch of "Strong Mommies" out there who were being true to themselves and their parenting principles, but, surrounded by a Good-Mommy culture, were worrying that because they weren't "Good", they must be "Bad". I'm glad I could offer support and reassurance.

"Options to parental dualism". There could be a post in that...

Brilliant! Thanks again, Mary!